Tuesday, October 7, 2008

Why I'm Not Watching The Real Housewives of Atlanta

Good people,

Thanks for the emails and comments on Facebook. I also appreciate all of the suggestions to add links and names to the sidebar as well.

You are just soooooo fabulous!

This is a long posting but hopefully, you'll understand my position after reading this.

I have no intentions of watching this show.
I love Bravo TV but they hurt my feelings with this one.

RHW-ATL is littered with ladies who live outside of Atlanta and the City buzz about them (and this show) is less than complementary. I do not view this show as a positive portrayal of Black women who are supposed to be a part of "Atlanta's Social Elite."

Whether this was the deliberate intention of Bravo TV or not - the preview indicated to me a reinforcement of several fallacies regarding the Black Elite.

1) That so-called Black 'social elite status' is solely linked to wealth

2) Black wealth and social status is primarily achieved via the sports and entertainment industries

3) The social status of women is still largely linked to their husbands or the man in their life

4) Gross and ostentatious displays of so called wealth through the acquisition of “stuff” (large homes, vehicles, and designer clothing) qualifies you to be a part of “Atlanta Society”


Here’s the thing that’s funny. The Real Housewives of New York are ladies who are a part of the New York/Hamptons social crowd. If you cull the archives of any of the popular Internet Society pubs, you’ll see their pics there – long before the RHW concept came to fruition.

Out of the five RHW-NY cast members, only two continuously asserted a connection between their social status and their husbands. The opposite appears holds true with this cast. Only two out of the five cast members position themselves as independent business women outside of their relationships.

What type of message is this providing to Black women when so many of us are un-coupled?

What is the likeliness of any Black woman marrying an athlete when only one in 22,000 players makes it to the professional leagues?

Now for argument’s sake – some of you may say that this show will provide you some good fantasy and escapism.

Lord knows you need a brain break with everything that’s going on in the world today.

OK. I get that. I’m not trying to be a dream stealer, but I’m just laying down the facts.

I do not believe that we have magically transcended race and gender stereotypes as Black women. You and I both know that we have lots of movers and shakers among us who get little if any media exposure. These ladies are shining, tangible examples for future generations.
They do not spew off how much they paid for a handbag, car, their homes, or pair of shoes just for the sake of telling others how much money they spent.

Here’s another news flash.

The era of the excessive glitterati and super bling is over.

Most Americans have become downright visually exhausted from the nonsense.
Refined taste and elegance are the new/old markers for social status in America.

Be on the lookout for my follow up blog posting on the dawning of this new era.