Friday, July 31, 2009

Friday's Fabulous Flick

This week's flick features Super Socialite B. Smith and Edward Robinson attending the 2009 Hamptons Designer Showhouse this past weekend. The event was a benefit for the Southampton Hospital and was hosted by Traditional Home magazine (one of my regular reads!)

Now good people, there has been lots of drama in the press recently.

Don't let it get your spirits down.

We are wrapping up the summer so make sure that you try to do something fun - even if it's as simple as going out for an ice cream cone.

Have a great weekend and we'll chat next week!


Friday, July 24, 2009

Friday's Fabulous Flick

This week's flick features Natoya Green and Frederick Mwangaguhunga (creator of gossip site Media Takeout) looking quite dapper at The Frick Collection's Garden Party on July 15th in support of the museum and the library. The event was held at the Frick's Fifth Avenue Garden in New York City.

Good people have a super weekend!


Friday, July 17, 2009

Friday's Fabulous Flick

This week’s flick features Super Socialite Bonnie Morrison attending the 2009 Council of Fashion Designers of America ( CFDA) Fashion Awards last month in New York City.

I love the simplicity and elegance of this dress on her!

Have a wonderful weekend good people!


Saturday, July 11, 2009

What I've Heard - Lil' Bits of News

Super Socialite Pamela Joyner hosted a soiree at her home for Super Socialite & White House SocialSecretary Desiree Rogers last month. The two fabulous women are pictured in the center.

Super Socialite Genevieve Jones was recently spotted at the Fendi Store on Fifth Avenue in New York City on top of a super expensive bicycle. Apparently, Fendi has partnered with Vogue Magazine to offer the glitzy ride.

Philadelphia FOX-TV News Anchor Shenielle Jones-Ojey was recently inducted into the founding chapter of The Links (The Philadelphia Chapter) along with Mariska Bogle (daughter of Philadelphia Tribune Publisher Robert Bogle), Dr. Tonya Holmes, Zakiya Black, (daughter of a Links member) and Renetta Holloway last May. The group’s service project entailed collecting more than 160 women’s suits that were donated to The Career Wardrobe. Mrs. Jones-Ojey (whose mother and grandmother are Links members) is expecting her first child in September.

Several Black celebs are attempting to “rebrand” themselves as “socialites” in effort establish longevity beyond the entertainment industry. Can you guess who?

Friday, July 10, 2009

Friday's Fabulous Flicks

To mark the 75th Anniversary of the legendary Apollo Theater in Harlem, The Apollo Theater Foundation recently hosted a start studded event. Steve Harvey, The O’Jays, Anita Baker, Mariah Carey, and Jamie Foxx were among the evening’s entertainment.

The Ruby Dee & Ossie Davis Arts and Humanitarian Award was given to Camille & Bill Cosby and The Coca-Cola Company was honored for its corporate philanthropy. Following the performances, attendees flooded into the Apollo Supper Club— designed by David Monn. Great Performances provided food and Belvedere, Hennessy and Moët & Chandon donated the spirits. DJ D-Nice pumped up the volume as revelers jumped into the festive atmosphere.

A special shout out to Super fabulous photo-journalist Margot Jordon who provided me with these great flicks!

Good people have a great weekend!


Sandra & Colvin Grannum
Cathy Hughes, Paul Mooney, Marvet Britto, & Stacey J
Tina Wynn, Toni Brown, & Della Britton Baeza
Carol Alexander & Howard Dotson
Joe Barnes & Raymond McGuire
Len & Marsha Burnett with Brett & Yvonna Wright
Phylicia Rashād
Alicia Bythewood & Dr. Dan Bythewood

Wednesday, July 8, 2009

Unwarranted Hatefulness Towards The Black Elite

I’ve spent some time this spring and summer thinking about the motivation behind unwarranted hatefulness. Human nature never ceases to amaze me so I often found myself dumbfounded by this phenomenon.

A few months ago, I had an epiphany – with assistance from some of my friends. Some people just enjoy being hateful. It is a pleasurable, euphoric experience for them that I will never understand. It’s like a hobby that requires a great deal of thought and vigor.

I discovered that there are individuals who enjoy creating epic and mythical sagas in their minds of good (themselves) versus evil (their target) where their lil’ ole nasty (and often invalid) opinions reign supreme regardless of any fact based metrics. Others use various tools at their disposal (a la the Internet, email, blogs, Twitter, and social networking sites) to lash out at people they may or may not know.

And, if one blogs on a topic that is considered (how shall I say this?) controversial, then the sparks can really fly. I’ll use myself as an example as I am sometimes the target of such hatefulness.

Hatefulness toward me and this blog ebbs and flows depending on what the mainstream media is yapping about. So up jumps a recent magazine article about The Obamas’ possible vacation spot and all of the sudden here we go with some people having hissy fit about The Black Socialite.


The Black Elite is a highly contentious topic among Black people. We are the only group of folks who are still so passionate about this issue that whenever it is raised, necks crane, eyes roll, spit flies, and voices increase in volume. So, the fact that I positively highlight this unique part of Black America on this blog makes some people really angry.

Having a hard time wrapping your brain around this?

Think of it this way. The hateful among us actually really care about what is covered here. If they didn’t, I wouldn’t keep hearing from them nor would my blog continue to be a topic of discussion for them.

Still don’t quite understand? Well, let’s take a quick journey into the minds and motivations of some of members of the ‘angry tribe.’ These statements reflect a paraphrased mash-up of emails and conversations I have had during my almost 2 years of blogging here:

I believe actualizing ‘The American Dream’ includes entry into whatever I desire whenever I desire it if simply I work hard and live a good life – especially if the ‘it’ (read: social club, sorority, fraternity, vacation resort) is ‘for Black people.’ “

“If Mr or Mrs X is not a member of your group, then you must be full of #*&%!”

“What gives you the right to tell me I’m not good enough?!”

“I wish you would (fall off a cliff, die, crawl into a hole, etc.). I hate your blog.”

‘I want to believe in the mythos of the Black American monolithic even though I know it’s not true.’

‘The idea of having class divisions among the descendents of North American slaves seems really unfair and improper.’

“This blog is a snobby waste of time.”

“It is too painful for me to fathom that at one time gaining entry into The Black Elite was sometimes controlled by a series of phenomena and/or phenotype that was beyond my control.”

“I am an unsuccessful aspirant with all of the qualifications to join, so why not me? It must be because that group/club is color struck and snobbish.’

I believe in the urban legends of modern day colorism and ridiculous snobbery fueled by the ‘whisper down the lane’ practices of some in the mainstream press and the Internet to justify why ‘these people’ were invited to the proverbial table and others weren’t.”

“I heard that you have to have lots of material things that I can’t afford in order to join.”

Close your mouth. I know you are speechless.

Here are some simple facts. We have a vocal vanguard within the ranks of the so called Black Elite who are still out there inflicting pain on some people. They often quoted in the media and they run around making outlandish statements about class, color, and ‘pedigree.’ They are a small but loud minority who had to claw their way to the manor and are somewhat vicious in their treatment of others. So, some of the notes I receive are anecdotes from people who have encountered some loon attempting to assert some weird ‘superiority’ complex over others to make themselves feel good.

They are NOT representative of the majority of the so called Black Elite. Most of the people featured on this blog go to work each day, volunteer tons of hours for community service, and leverage their resources for causes that matter to them.

Conversely, there are some people who are covert aspirants who will never admit to themselves or to others that they would love to hold membership in some of the organizations highlighted on this blog. Their hatefulness toward this blog and me is merely a reflection of their lack of self esteem and their frustration on the quest - so I don’t take it personally.

It is what it is.

So good people, if you are member of the so called Black Elite or aspire to join, you may have to brace yourself for the sometimes bumpy ride of unwarranted hatefulness.

Just remember that you owe no one an explanation or justification about your lifestyle choices and decisions.