Saturday, January 30, 2010

What Becomes of The Brokenhearted?

Recently (I’d say within the last five months) I’ve been inundated with stories/tales/gossip of the divorces and pending separations among those in the Black Socialite (or aspirant) circle. It’s no secret that the divorce rate is high and with the stress of this economy chipping away at our livelihoods…whew…many solid relationships have dissipated.

One ugly and unfortunate subset of the dissolving of relationships is the social isolation some people experience once the bond has been broken. And usually more than not, it’s the woman who finds herself uninvited to social events and activities.

I’ve never quite understood this phenomenon although I know it exists. What’s equally heartrending is to watch powerful, beautiful, and smart women crumble when the realization comes that they are now on the “outside” of the “in crowd.”

If you find yourself in this predicament, don’t stress it. Those people were never really your friends I’m sorry to report. It’s better to know that lies beneath their masks now so that when you recover you’ll know how to deal with them.

Spend some time cocooning so that you can properly heal before taking on the world again. Once you’re back to full strength, you can begin to cultivate new social circles that are less “couples driven” and are more “competencies driven.” This is a good time to poke around for board appointments to various social service organizations that will yield more contacts and ultimately, more invitations to a variety of social functions.

If you are not currently in a committed relationship, heed this advice. Make sure that you craft a strong social brand identity before you meet that special loved one. It is sooooo much more attractive to be formidable in your own right. If someone wants to decrease you so that they can increase themselves – kick them to the curb face down.

The power rests in you to create and re-create your reality. All good things take time, vision, strategy, and cultivation. Your next chapter is waiting to be written.

The question becomes are you ready?

Friday, January 29, 2010

Friday's Fabulous Flicks

This week's features some of the gentlemen in attendance at The Comus Social Club of Brooklyn's Annual Holiday Ball. The Comus Social Club was founded in 1922 and is considered one of the oldest social clubs for Black men in the Northeast.

I thought it would be a nice change of pace given some of the other (ahem) images of Black men that bombard us on an almost daily basis.

Thanks to Margot Jordon for sharing these wonderful photos!

Phil Banks & Hon. Gregory Meeks
David Banks, Hon. David Dinkins, & Hon. Eric Adams
Earl Arrington & Dr. Gerald Deas

Friday, January 22, 2010

Friday's Fabulous Flick

Jamie Tisch recently opened up her home for a “Dolce & Gabbana Luncheon” with a few other ladies in Beverly Hills. The guest list appeared packed with various West Coast socialite types like Gelia Puck & Keisha Whitaker. This week’s flick features Paris Vaughan Courtnall (daughter of jazz legend Sarah Vaughan) and Valerie Landsburg attending that swanky house party.

Take a moment to check out Paris' top and tote bag. I'm just saying it's extra hot!

Have a good weekend wonderful people!

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

Tribute Luncheon for Eunice W. Johnson

On January 11th, The Metropolitan Museum of Art held a tribune luncheon in honor of the legendary fashion icon Eunice W. Johnson (Co-founder of Ebony Magazine and The Ebony Fashion Fair). The glitterati were in attendance including Vogue Editor in Chief Anna Wintour and former President Bill Clinton. The luncheon took place in the Temple of Dendur inside of the museum.

Desiree Rogers, Thelma Golden, David Meitus, & Carol Sutton Lewis
Linda Johnson Rice & Sanya Richards

Sandra Parks, Sherry Bronfman, & Harriette Cole
Toni Fay & B. Smith

Friday, January 15, 2010

Please Offer Your Support To Haiti

Instead of posting Friday's Fabulous Flick today, I am requesting that you consider offering whatever support you can to help those affected by the tragedy in Haiti.

There are lots of credible entities and organizations you can donate to including The Red Cross
( you can receive text updates of the relief efforts in the country if you are interested).

We will talk about the Haitian relief efforts on Facebook so feel free to participate.

Also, let's say a prayer for any and everyone who has been impacted by this devastation.

While our hearts are heavy with sorrow now, we must begin to prepare ourselves for the years of work ahead to rebuild Haiti and help its citizens.

May God help all of us to heal.

We'll chat again soon.

Friday, January 8, 2010

Friday's Fabulous Flick

This week’s flick features Che and Shannon Johnson who attended the Madison Square Boys and Girls Club 43rd Annual Christmas Tree Ball last month. The event was held at Cipriani 42nd Street location and included a performance by the legendary Dionne Warwick. More than $1 million was raised for the club (a huge feat in these economic times!) and over 500 people donned their finest holiday attire to join in the festivities .

Good People - Have a great weekend. We have LOTS to cover this year!