Friday, March 28, 2014

Friday's Fabulous Flick

This week's flick features Dawne Marie Grannum and Mayor David Dinkins attending a benefit for the New York Mission Society. This organization is one of the oldest social service agencies in the United States.

Sunday, March 23, 2014

Happy Birthday To Me!

I am blessed to see another birthday!  Here's to life, love, and laughter!

The Sociopath in Your Social Circle

Periodically, I take us into the dark side - although, this is a positive blog. This is a tough but important topic that's been tugging at me for quite sometime.

Recently, there's been a great deal of conversation about sociopathic behavior in the workplace and general community at large. I suspect that this is driven by a new book that professes to shed light on this phenomena.

I am not a clinician nor do I claim to fully understand the scope of anti-social personality disorder. But, what I believe is that sociopathic behavior is quite common. And, chances are that you know at least one in your social circle.

Now keep in mind, not all of these people are ax murderers running around killing people or crazy cult leaders.

The people I speak of are charming, manipulative folks who are fundamentally destructive. The destruction (in my experience) manifests as a facade of being noble and upright, while doing extreme "dirt" to others.

So, what does this look like exactly? Well, I've seen it as the glittering socialite who is judgmental of others' short comings, while stealing money from their jobs and/or social groups over an extended period of time.

They are extreme lovers of status and will subsequently go to extremes to maintain a carefully crafted facade.

These people are super intelligent and know how to shift people around to support their agenda. Sociopaths are con artists.

So what should you do if you encounter a sociopath in our social circle? Well, it depends.

If you suspect someone has sociopathic tendencies, don't be mean or hostile towards them. Just keep a safe distance. In other words, be cordial but don't attempt to transform them or go to their friends with your concerns. Eventually, their behavior will be exposed.

If they do something negative that personally affects you (ie spread negative rumors about you or steal money from a social club you're a member of), be prepared to provide evidence of their behavior, and then separate yourself from the person.

But, be ready for the sociopath to have legions of support. They know how to cultivate blind loyalists who will "ride or die." Don't be hostile or judgmental of these people either. Just keep it moving.

Sociopaths lack remorse, so even if their negative behavior is exposed, they will still carry on their lives as if nothing happened.

They may only transform if criminally prosecuted and/or treated by professional mental health experts. But don't count on that because sociopaths rarely think they have a problem. They feel their behavior is completely justified. And they are pros at playing the victim or pretending to be remorseful.

When you are social and charitable,  you'll encounter all types of people - many of whom are fabulous. But there are plenty of "nuts" out there too.

To be forewarned is to be forearmed. So continue on your super socialite quest - but be careful out there.

Peace and Blessings!

Friday, March 21, 2014

Friday's Fabulous Flicks

This week's flicks features attendees at the Second Annual Philadelphia Mayor's Masked Ball on March 9th. The event was held at the Downtown Philadelphia Marriott, with proceeds benefiting the local United Negro College Fund (UNCF). There were approximately 500 attendees at this year's gala. 

My hubby and I attended to show our support for one of our "buddy-mooners," Willie F. Johnson, Founder/Chairman of PRWT, Inc. who was an honoree. Mr. Johnson was in attendance with his lovely girlfriend, Phyllis Lawrence (also a buddy-mooner). The other honorees were Sheldon M. Bonovitz, Chairman Emeritus, Duane Morris, LLC and Michael A. Rashid, the recently retired President/ CEO, AmeriHealth Caritas.
Willie F. Johnson & Phyllis Laurence 
This year's event was co-chaired by Daniel J.Hilferty, President/CEO of Independence Blue Cross, Julie Coker-Graham, Senior Vice President, Convention Division - Philadelphia Convention and Visitors Bureau; Craig L. Adams, President/CEO of PECO, and Albert P. Black, CEO of the Hospital of the University of Pennsylvania. The co-chairs were supported by an event committee that included various local area chapter presidents of The Links, Incorporated, The Girlfriends, Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc., Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc., Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Inc., and Sigma Gamma Rho Sorority, Inc. 

I believe the Philadelphia area chapters of The Links, Incorporated had the largest collective group of attendees and donated more than $13,000 for the event. I also believe that the Enon Tabernacle Baptist Church of Philadelphia gave the largest donation from a single church, raising more than $26,000. 

UNCF Mayor's Masked Ball events are now taking place over all of the United States. So, be on the lookout for this fun event that raises money for deserving college students. 

Friday, March 14, 2014

Friday's Fabulous Flick

This week's flick features June Haynes, Gillian Harding, & Danielle Campisi (from left to right) attending the Sotheby's 29th Annual Academy of the Arts Lifetime Achievement Awards recently.

Ms. Haynes is a former Senior Vice President of Valentino and the President of June Haynes Luxury Retailing.

Saturday, March 1, 2014

Friday's Fabulous Flick

This week's flick featured DJ/Socialite Hannah Bronfman attending the AmFar Gala in New York City recently.

I think this is a stunning look!

Now tell the truth...doesn't this ensemble make you want to hunt down a white gown to add to your formal wardrobe?